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How to Improve Your Social Skills

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Identify and Replace Negative Thoughts

If you have a lot of negative thoughts about your social interactions, it could become a self-fulfilling prediction. For example, suppose a person who thinks, “I’m really awkward and I will embarrass myself,” may be sitting in the corner at a party. As a result, he may leave the party with that thinking that definitely he was really awkward that's why no one talked to him. So please don’t make it such type of predictions in your mind. Try to identify your negative thoughts that are likely dragging you down. Replace them with more realistic thoughts, such as, “you can make conversation and you can meet new people.” Don’t allow yourself to dwell on thoughts that aren’t productive.


Develop Skills by reading

Reading books is always beneficial for you. There are many books on the market that can help you learn specific social skills and ways to start conversations. However, keep in mind that reading about these skills won’t make you an expert. You’ll need to practice them over and over again. Reading these social skills book also teaches you about good manners in improving social skills. Please try to practice these skills. Practice being polite, showing gratitude, and using good table manners is definitely helps you to enhance your social presence.

Observe other people behavior to improve your skill.

If you want to improve your social skill then this is a simple but very effective technique to develop these skills. Watch their body language closely and consider why they are better at interacting with others socially. Observe their posture, their facial expressions, and how often they make eye contact. Consider how you might replicate or improve upon your own body language while talking to people. Determine 'how well' the people you're observing, that they know each other. This is important because the body language shared among close friends who are talking differs completely from that displayed by two complete strangers even in an ordinary setting. This will both guide and help you to become more aware of your own body language

Spend a little extra time on yourself.

Try to spend a little bit of extra time with you while getting ready to go out. You'll feel more confident with the way you look yourself. Spending a little extra time on making sure you like the way you look and feel confident about yourself will make all other social situations easier to be in. Please develop a hygiene routine, buy some new clothes or a pair of shoes you liked, and dressing your best not only improve self-confidence they make you naturally more social, too.


Wisely choose your gestures to express yourself.

This is an important tip to enhance your social skill because your gestures often communicate messages more powerfully than your words.  Always remember you’re your body language plays an important role in social interactions. So be careful and take time to reflect on messages you give others through your posture, eye contact, and facial expressions. If you are avoiding eye contact, standing far away, or crossing your arms, you are likely telling others that you don't want to interact.

 Please adopt a confident pose, and smile a bit more, Make frequent eye contact with people you are talking to; stand straight and unfold your arms. This way you are certainly more likely to create a good impression on people you speak to. This is a very quick and effective tip, a smile is universally known to be a great way to show you are open to others, and makes people feel at ease. Just focusing on smiling when you meet people will make things a little easier.


Proper communication helps to improve your social skills.

Communication skills are the key to developing friendships and to building a strong social support network. They also help you take care of your own needs while being respectful of the needs of others. No one is born with good communication skills; like any other skill, they are learned through trial and error and repeated practice. One of the biggest challenges for someone with social anxiety is starting conversations and keeping them going. It is normal to struggle a bit when you are trying to make small talk because it is not always easy to think of things to say. Always remember don’t speak too softly or too loudly either. Speak at a volume that can be heard easily, and suggests confidence but never shows aggression. Remember to adjust the volume of your voice to suit the surrounding environment. If possible, speak at the same volume and tone as people in your immediate environment.

This is the right manner to initiate your conversation with someone; you can begin speaking about general issues such as current events or any recent news. Try to ask polite questions about their family, employment, or hobbies can lengthen a conversation and make it more meaningful.  Small talk is not always easy though; since it can often be difficult to think of exactly what to say.  Try as much as possible to ask open-ended questions; in other words, start with a "How," a "Why," or a "What," instead of those questions to which there can only be a plain and simple "Yes" or "No" answer. That doesn't encourage the person you're speaking to speak more.


Meeting with more people makes you more social.

This is usually a safe, comfortable environment where learning to speak can be easier for you. You are not the only one there who wants to work on their speaking skills then Why don't practice with those who also want to do the same thing. The very fact that if you want to improve your social skills shows that you are an open, kind person who is willing to work on themselves. Surround yourself with people with similar goals to help you grow faster. Please remember this fact that your social skills will improve with practice. The more you communicate and interact with people; you will get better at it. Be confident when you approaching a person to talk. If you are too nervous you may make the other person nervous too. Please try to implement these tips; this will be really beneficial to improve your social skills.


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