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How to Improve Your Self-Control

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Empathic Limits teach you self-discipline

Every time when you set a limit that your child accepts, they practicing self-control. According to your instructions, they rather keep playing, but they are also doing another work according to time. So never try to force them by punishment or using hard words, punishment doesn't encourage self-discipline because the child isn't actually choosing to stop, they are doing this because they are being forced. Please remember that permissiveness or by force, you don't encourage self-discipline because the child doesn't feel a need to stop themselves. So whenever you setting a limit, set with understanding, so that your child is willing to accept it and it helps in your child developing self-discipline.

Nurture their self-awareness.

The more self-awareness your child has, the more control they have over their behavior. Tell them if they are losing their self-control, then how it effects on their daily life. Lack of self-awareness producing some new issues such as you is more stressed, taking impulsive decisions, anxious, which is directly effect on your performance and thinking power. The more awareness they have, the more they can navigate around the things that tend to skittle their capacity for self-control.

Create opportunities for them to take the initiative.

Provide opportunities in which they have to decide whether to exercise self-control or give in to temptation. A great opportunity to do this is with pocket money. (Self-control and money – who couldn’t do with a little more of that) Suggest to your kids that when they save a certain amount of money, you will boost this by adding to their savings. Immediate feedback always sparks motivation, so make a visual chart or tally so they can see how they’re traveling. This is really one of the best approaches to develop a self-control skill.

Set boundaries to learn self-control.

Boundaries provide opportunities to learn how to self-regulate. So always tell your child this limit. If there are no boundaries, it is almost impossible to tell them why they need to develop the quality self-control. It is important to tell them that fact if you don't control it then in future you are facing many problems like short-temper, frustration etc.

Play games that help kids practice self-control

Computer games and concentration-style card games can help young children develop their working memory. More active games like Red Light, Green Light, and Freeze, in which children dance while music plays and freeze when it stops, require participants to exert self-control. The game sessions featured the modified version of “Red Light, Green Light" designed to give kids a self-regulation workout is “The Freeze game”. Kids dance while the music play and freeze while it stops. Dance quickly for fast-tempo songs, slowly for slow-tempo songs and then reverse the cues like Fast music change into slow dancing. Slow music means fast dancing. This is really helpful for self-control skill.

Identify your talent enhance your self-confidence.

Every person is good at something, find out that quality at which you excel, and then focus on your talents. Give yourself permission to take pride in them. Express yourself, whether it's through art, music, writing, or dance. Go with something in which you are interested and make your career according to your talent. Adding a variety of interests or hobbies to your life will not only make you more confident, but it will also increase your chances of meeting compatible friends as well. When you're following your passion, so you'll feel unique and accomplished, all of which can help build your self-confidence.

Take pride in yourself.

Not only should you feel proud of your talents or your skills, but you should also think about the things that make your personality great. It can be your sense of humor, your sense of compassion, your listening skills, or your ability to cope with stress. You may not think that there's anything about your personality worth admiring, but if you dig deep, you'll realize that you have plenty of admirable qualities. Focus on them by writing them down. All of these qualities are very helpful to enhance our skills.

The Role Model

If your child has faced any issue so they will look to their parents, mentors for a solution. So if they see that you can't manage your own emotions and react angrily, so the child gets a clear message that life is full of emergencies. As a parent, Please respond in a situation the way they wish their children to respond. The most important thing is that you are a motivation for your child so help your child to leaned self-control and regulate your own emotions, so they can stay calm and compassionate in every situation.

Teach children to respond always positively.

Most children don’t like to be corrected and their response comes out in a negative form either aggressive (anger) or passive (bad attitude) ways. This is unacceptable and becomes an excellent opportunity to teach self-discipline. One of the facts of life is that people often must follow directions which may not be their preference. Teach children to respond with a good attitude as well as right behavior. This requires self-control and helps children learn to control their impulses. A good response to correction is sometimes difficult to learn but work in this area will help a child develop a skill which will help them forever.

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